If life’s journey is like a bus ride: there are drivers, and there are passengers.
(there are also conductors, there are navigators, there are engineers…)
There are a lot more passengers on the bus than drivers.
What does it take to be a driver?
The drivers are people that passengers can believe in. Who do we believe in? I am reminded of the Trust Equation. Trust is made up of 4 elements – credibility, reliability, intimacy and other-orientation.
Sometimes I am a passenger on the journey: I am seeking validation of my ideas, my projects and my life.
Great teachers know how to balance enough validation with enough allowance for the development of self-validation capacity. The best teachers are mature enough to avoid giving me the explicit validation that I think I want, but they know that if they give it, I will become an addict to their validation, not to building my own inner capacity to self-validate.
…and my next question for today:
Whats the difference between a rockstar and a guy with a guitar in his bedroom?
Answers below… What do you think?