Two months ago, I was at IESE business school with Verne Harnish and his wife Julie. We were talking about entrepreneurial success and achievement. He shared with me a quote that comes from his father-in-law:
“How you do anything is how you do everything.”
Detail from the Alhambra Palace in Granada, Spain credit Pim Fijneman
Verne’s father-in-law has apartments that he rents out. What criteria does he use to identify good tenants? How does he decide to whom he will rent out his apartments?
When somebody comes to view one of his properties, he takes the time to look at that person’s car. Are the tires in good condition? Is the paintwork in good shape? Is the inside of the car in good condition? Is it clean? If the person takes good care of their car, he knows they will take good care of his apartment. He rents his apartments to those who take good care of their cars.
“How you do anything is how you do everything.”
Coach John Wooden, the most-winning-est coach having led the UCLA basketball team to 10 championships in 12 seasons, has 3 rules for his players:
Show up on time
Show up properly dressed
Show up shaved
His view is that if you can keep these simple things under control, you have the discipline to master the big things.
“How you do anything is how you do everything.”
My brother Aidan worked in investment banking for a decade.
When he first started he joined a team led by a gruff senior banker. This senior banker gave my brother one simple task that he was to complete every morning before the 7:00am team meeting – he was to send out an email to the team with 6 market indicators calculated for the day. My brother delivered this email before 7:00am every day for 2 years. One day, the whole team had a late night. Everybody was out late celebrating.
The next morning, my brother’s email didn’t arrive til a few minutes after 7:00am. The gruff senior banker immediately said to him “Never let this happen again. How can I trust you with clients, with million dollar trades, if I can’t trust you with this task. Never again. Understood?”
I would have felt cruelly treated in this situation – “I deliver 400 times successfully and the one time I deliver 3 minutes late I get beaten up!” But the message was very clear:
“How you do anything is how you do everything.”
Sweat the details.
The little things count.
“We can do no great things, only little things with great love”
I read Conversations on Leadership by Lan Liu when I was sitting in the IESE library recently. He interviews some of the big thinkers and identifies 8 core disciplines of leadership.
Connecting with People
Learning from Failure
Reflecting on Experience
Thinking Deeply
Storytelling
Being a Teacher
Knowing Yourself
Becoming Yourself
Further reading Lan Liu is a rising star in Chinese leadership studies. Lan Liu wrote a HBR blog post recently titled “Beyond the American Model of Leadership“
I have prepared a series of short videos for my IESE courses this year. This is a 3 minute video describing the 5 aspects of a powerful speaking voice. A powerful voice will transmit authority to your audience and allow them to engage with you as a credible leader.
The five aspects of a powerful speaking voice
The five aspects of a powerful speaking voice are:
This post is inspired by a talk “You and your research” by Richard Hamming.
One life to live
Richard Hamming
“Now, why is this talk important? I think it is important because, as far as I know, each of you has one life to live. Even if you believe in reincarnation it doesn’t do you any good from one life to the next! Why shouldn’t you do significant things in this one life, however you define significant? I’m not going to define it – you know what I mean.” Richard Hamming speaking to Bellcore, 7 March, 1986.
My summary of Hamming’s lessons for success (as a scientist, but I believe easily applicable to any profession) are:
Hammings 13 Lessons for Success
Work hard
Accept ambiguity
Work on important problems
Plant acorns to grow oaks
When opportunity appears pursue it fully
Keep your door open sometimes, closed sometimes
Do your job in such a way that others can build on it
Even scientists have to sell (learn to speak well)
Educate your bosses
How you dress matters
Be good to secretaries
Let others fight the system (you can do great work or fight the system, not both)
Always look for positive not negative
Know yourself, your weaknesses, your self-delusions (we all have self-delusions)
All the talent, but don’t deliver
Richard Hamming says about people who have greatness within their grasp but don’t succeed:
they don’t try and change what is difficult to some other situation which is easily done but is still important, and
they keep giving themselves alibis why they don’t. They keep saying that it is a matter of luck.
How success and fame can ruin you
“When you are famous it is hard to work on small problems. The great scientists often make this error. They fail to continue to plant the little acorns from which the mighty oak trees grow. They try to get the big thing right off. And that isn’t the way things go. So that is another reason why you find that when you get early recognition it seems to sterilize you.”
How to keep it going for life
“Somewhere around every seven years make a significant, if not complete, shift in your field. Thus, I shifted from numerical analysis, to hardware, to software, and so on, periodically, because you tend to use up your ideas. When you go to a new field, you have to start over as a baby. You are no longer the big mukity muk and you can start back there and you can start planting those acorns which will become the giant oaks.”
“It is better to solve the right problem the wrong way than to solve the wrong problem the right way.”
Thanks to Paul Graham, founder of Y Combinator for sharing this talk on his blog. The full text of the talk is here.
What do you think?
Are you planting acorns? Are you fighting the system? or doing great work? Is it true that you cannot do both? (sometimes the system is wrong… what should I do?) Join the discussion here.
Listen. Not just to the words. To the emotions of the other. To the real reasons underlying her position. To the hidden messages in their communication. To yourself. To how you feel. To your unconscious. It is a very very clever beast. It just doesn’t do directness very well.
Years ago, laziness was about shirking from physical labour. Avoiding chores.
The New Laziness
Today’s laziness is more insipid. It doesn’t look like physical laziness. In fact, only the individual self can know that they are being lazy. The new laziness is fear based. It is procrastination. It is self-sabotage. It is avoidance of standing out. It is taking the tested path. It is doing what everyone else does and then being frustrated when you get paid the same as everyone else, of how you will be let go when you are 40 and a 20 year old will do the same work, with more energy, and for less money.
“There are different species of laziness: Eastern and Western. The Eastern style is like the one practiced in India. It consists of hanging out all day in the sun, doing nothing, avoiding any kind of work or useful activity, drinking cups of tea, listening to Hindi film music blaring on the radio, and gossiping with friends. Western laziness is quite different. It consists of cramming our lives with compulsive activity, so there is no time at all to confront the real issues. This form of laziness lies in our failure to choose worthwhile applications for our energy.” Sogyal Rinpiche
Busy-ness on the wrong things is the new laziness.
An entrepreneur friend recently commented to me an early conversation he had with a mentor:
“Alex, you have great potential”.
“Thanks.”
“Do you know what great potential means?”
“Huh?”
“You ain’t done nothing yet”.
What does it take to turn potential into mastery?
Malcolm Gladwell has made famous the concept that 10,000 hours of practice leads to world class performance in his book Outliers. I say this is not true. There are plenty of people who have amassed over 10,000 hours and they are still poor or mediocre at what they do. The truth is that these 10,000 hours need to be “Deliberate Practice” in order to achieve excellence.
What is deliberate practice?
“For starters, it isn’t what most of us do when we’re practicing” Geoff Colvin. The key piece of scientific literature on this subject is “The role of deliberate practice in the acquisition of expert performance” by Anders Ericsson.
There are five things that characterize Deliberate Practice:
It is designed specifically to improve performance
It can be repeated a lot
Feedback on results is continuously available
It is highly demanding mentally
It is not fun
There are three fields of human performance where methods for becoming world class have been developed and honed over hundreds of years.
Musicians, Sportsmen and Chess players have found practice models that lead to world class performance based on the inclusion of the 5 aspects of deliberate practice. We can bring these styles of practice into the world of business and leadership.
The Musician Model
Barry Douglas: Ireland’s top Pianist
Great musicians become great by repeatedly copying others and comparing their results with the results of previous great musicians. Musicians spend much of their life reading and practicing music that is written on sheets.
How does the Musician Model apply to learning to lead?
Get to know inspiring community leaders. How do they live their lives?
Read biographies and personal accounts (and blogs) of leaders you respect.
Practice reading speeches out loud and get a feel for how great speakers use words and structure
The Chess Model
Excellent chess players play lots, have deep knowledge on openings and expert play, have studied extensively the decisions taken by grandmasters – “what was he seeing that I don’t see?”. It is important that you not only copy, but also reflect on why the master followed this series of moves, what was the underlying strategy?
How does the Chess Model apply to learning to lead?
Review the decisions taken by great leaders. What were they thinking? Why did they take this particular decision? What other options did they consider?
Always ask a question when in a conference or formal presentation.
Formulate your opinions on everything – news, stocks, impact of the iphone on society, most important values for children, role of the MBA, etc
“War games” Practice scenarios, what if? How would I respond to X, Y, Z? Prepare.
The Sports Model
Sports success requires intense physical and mental conditioning – keep your mind and body fit. Sports people repeatedly practice the basic physical skills; but this is not enough. It is vital that performance on the big day of the competition is as high as during the practice. Sports people need to work on their mind so that their performance under the glare of lights and pressure of competition does not reduce.
There are 4 ways to handle anxiety – top sports stars need to use the mature 2 methods: tolerate or enjoy – in order that their performance is not impaired by pressure.
How does the Sports model apply to learning to lead?
Enjoying anxiety or high pressure situations requires a belief system that sees your life as a continual journey of growth as a human being – whether you succeed or fail each pressure moment is an opportunity for growth. Do you treat pressure moments and critical decisions as opportunities for reflection and growth?
Performance under pressure requires that you have practiced the basic moves to a degree to which you can trust yourself to perform – if reading financial statements and making quick judgements is important to your job – practice making these judgements on a daily basis – don’t just wait for your boss or client to ask your opinion.
Keep fit – athletes need to be fit, leaders need all the energy they can get.
Eat well – fruit and veg better than pizza and beer.
Sleep enough – I need 7 hours. I need to read 20 minutes to calm my mind to sleep.
What will your 10,000 hours be?
I take decisions every day, every hour. The decision to play it safe. The decision to be like all the others. The decision to copy how someone else would do it. The decision to work hard at being the same. These are perfectly fine decisions, but they have consequences. The least safe decision in the long term is to seek comfort now. The world will keep changing. Web 2.0, globalization increase the pace at which change is driving through all of our lives. My grandfather’s competition were the other males living in his town. My competition is every Indian, Chinese, Brazilian, Spaniard in the world. There will always be somebody able and willing to do the simple, commodity tasks for less pay. This is inevitable. There is no escape. A sinking ship will eventually sink. I can bail a little. I can pray. I can put up bigger borders. But I cannot stop that the boat will eventually sink. The effort that I put into delaying the sinking is effort that could have gone into making myself not a commodity, into being valuable for me.
What do you want to be doing 20 years from now? In what domain are you going to accumulate 10,000 hours of deliberate practice?
My free (as of December 2012) Speaking As a Leader Program can help you begin a disciplined practice around public speaking.
There are three benefits that grow from you “acting” confident:
Attitude follows Behavior: Over time, you become more like you act—self-assured, confident, and convinced of the truth of what you are saying.
Emotional Contagion: Walk down an airport corridor and smile, and watch people smile back; change your facial expression to a frown, and you will be met with frowns. Act confident, people respond with confidence in you.
Self-Reinforcing Emotions: if you smile and then others smile, you are more likely to feel happy and smile. You may have to act confident and knowledgeable at first, but as others “catch” that feeling, it will be reflected back, making you more confident.
Try acting confident for an hour. How does it feel? How do people respond? Try smiling. Do people respond with smiles? How do you feel? Have a great weekend.
On 9th August 2010, Ed Stafford arrived at the sea, having walked the length of the Amazon river. Over 860 days of walking, 20,000 mosquito bites, 5,000 leeches, poisonous spiders and snakes. No boss told him to do it. Nobody paid him for it. Why did he do it? How did he keep going for almost 3 years?
“Writing is among the greatest inventions in human history, perhaps the greatest invention, since it made history possible. Yet it is a skill most writers take for granted. As adults we seldom stop to think about the mental-cum-physical process that turns our thoughts into symbols on a piece of paper.” Andrew Robinson, The Story of Writing.
I have blogged about how to have more energy. This blog post is about improving intelligence.
How to improve your intelligence
If you want to improve your intelligence, write stuff down. Full stop. Write stuff down, and 6 months from now you have the accumulated intelligence of 6 months of notes, ideas, quotes.
More valuable perhaps than increased intelligence is the power of writing to reduce my feelings of stress or overwhelm when I confront uncertain or challenging decisions.
Reflective writing gives me three benefits
Writing slows down time (Mindfulness)
Writing orders my thought (practice improves clear thinking)
Writing allows perspective (separation of subject and object, separation of reason and emotion)
Habits and Rituals to keep writing as a habit
In order to develop a habit of reflective writing I would suggest you start with 5 to 10 minute sessions where you dedicate full attention. Set a timer and remove all sources of interruption. Close the door, disconnect internet, put mobile on silent.
I use a pen and paper. Others use computer. Whatever you do, the key to getting the benefits is to separate the creative and edit processes. Reflective writing is about capturing the flow of consciousness as you reflect on the decision, on an error, on a problematic relationship, on how to achieve a certain outcome – and not letting your inner editor get into the process until you have a draft of the ideas down on paper.
There are times when I have to tell my brain “I will keep writing until I have 500 words on this page and if I have to write the word ‘the’ 500 times then that is what I will do”. Inspiration comes when I tell my procrastination-oriented lizard brain that I am going to go on writing until I reach my goal.
Some starting questions to use for reflection
Tell the whole story from other perspectives – put yourself in someone elses shoes and tell the story the way you imagine they might see it. Improves your imagination – humanity’s most important gift.
What if? – take a fundamental assumption and imagine how things would change if it was not valid
Rants, then reflect on underlying message – let the anger or frustration out and vent on the paper… then review what the source of the anger or frustration really is
Practice conversations – script a difficult conversation
Keep records – track what has happened today
Reflect on your own performance (honestly)
Note quotes, ideas, connections – write down words that impact you from newspapers, books, articles or that you hear from people that you speak to
List good questions – “what other criteria are important to you in taking this decision?” (old post: How to ask the best questions)
Draw diagrams – visually represent the problem, concept, flows
2×2 matrix – do what consultants do (I would welcome a post from any reader who is a consultant on 2×2 matrices… :-)
Political maps – draw a network map, reflect on the true organisation power structure
Write about emotion and what the situation looked like when angry, frustrated, dissapointed
Persuade yourself – make the case to yourself
Devil’s Advocate – be your own skeptic
Clear up objectives (realistic, tangible) – what do you really want achieve? what will it feel like when you achieve the objective? why is it important to you?
Identify other’s interests, options, BATNA – how can you help other’s achieve their goals?
Re-frame messages – historically, politically, scale up or down, viewed from 5 years in the future
Action plans – what are you going to do? what series of steps take you closer to your goal? how to engage the people whose support you need?
And you?
What other tools, questions, methods do you have for using writing as a tool for reflection? Do you write regularly? Why? or Why not?
I will finish with Socrates: “The unexamined life is not worth living”. He was wise. Although I might add that the over-examined life is a poor alternative – best to experience life than to think about experiencing life. Reflection on experience is not a complete replacement for fully living today.
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