“If You Can Do Your Job From Home, Be Scared. Be Very Scared… Put on a shirt and get into the office.”
Scott Galloway
Working from home is dangerous, especially for young workers…
“Offices are where young professionals establish relationships with mentors, colleagues, and mates.”
If you are young and ambitious, get to the office. But, even if you are productive at home, you will only be promoted if you learn how to build relationships.
Scott Galloway is a successful entrepreneur, and a professor. He speaks bluntly and clearly about life in today’s world. I may not agree with all that he says, but it always pushes me to think and clarify my own beliefs.
Persistence is one of the most important qualities that a person can possess. It is the ability to persevere, to keep going even in the face of obstacles and setbacks. In life, success often depends on persistence more than anything else.
In this video:
on Ants and Obstacles… they just keep going
Rivers… they just keep flowing
110m high hurdles… don’t look at the obstacles
How do you face obstacles?
Whether you’re trying to achieve a personal goal or working towards a professional goal, persistence is key. It takes time and effort to achieve anything worthwhile, and setbacks and failures are inevitable along the way. But those who are persistent keep going, even when things get tough. They don’t give up, they don’t quit.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Thomas Edison
One of the most famous examples of persistence is the story of Thomas Edison, who failed over a thousand times before he finally invented the light bulb. When asked about his failures, Edison famously said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Edison’s persistence paid off, and his invention changed the world.
Persistence is also important in relationships. Maintaining strong relationships takes effort and patience, and there will inevitably be disagreements and challenges along the way. But those who are persistent in their relationships work through these challenges and come out stronger on the other side.
In summary, persistence is an essential quality for success in all areas of life. It allows us to keep going when things get tough and to overcome obstacles and setbacks. So if you’re working towards a goal, don’t give up. Keep going, keep pushing, and keep being persistent. Your efforts will pay off in the end.
Reputation… “the beliefs or opinions that are generally held about someone”; “a widespread belief that someone or something has a particular characteristic.”
Your reputation shapes how people see you.
“A man with a reputation for getting up early can stay in bed all day”
Irish proverb
The reputation you have shapes how everything you do is viewed by those around you. As the Irish proverb says “A man with a reputation for getting up early can stay in bed all day”. A person with a reputation for positive impact can fail… and the senior people will say “it must have been a difficult project”… A person who doesn’t have that reputation for positive impact will have everything they do viewed.
Video from IESE Madrid… Reputation matters!
Ideally you are both competent and have a positive reputation. If you are incompetent, it would be best for the world that you have a poor reputation. However there are two dangerous situations… someone who is competent… but does not have a positive reputation; and someone who is incompetent.. but has a positive reputation.
This video is for those who start from a place of competence. Where you have competence… I want you to take the time to think about what generates a positive first impression.. and over the longer term, a positive reputation.
Back in 2009, Stanford prof Tina Seelig split students in the school of engineering into teams and gave them an envelope containing $5.
Teams had only two hours to generate as much money as possible. Each team would get three minutes to present their project to the entire class.
Here is Tina’s own article explaining the experience: The $5 Challenge
What would be your Strategy?
Check out the video below to hear how the challenge went… and how to use this thinking in your own life and business…
The teams that made the most money didn’t use the five dollars at all.
They realised that focusing on the money actually framed the problem way too tightly. They understood that five dollars is essentially nothing and decided to reinterpret the problem more broadly: What can we do to make money if we start with absolutely nothing?
In our own lives and businesses it is very easy to limit ourselves to “how do I do more of what I am already good at?” or “How do I use my current capacities to maximise return?”.
How do you do strategy for your life and business?
Are you investing in your own Foundations – or are you building the house of your life on sand?
Leadership coach Luis Soares shared the story in the video below a few years ago on a leadership retreat for Vistage Spain.
There are two metaphors in the video:
Building a house on solid foundations before you build higher
The bamboo grows deep, extensive roots before it grows up
5 Areas where you can deliberately invest in the foundations of your life:
Health – get fit, eat well, learn about sleep
Wealth – build savings, have emergency fund (you could survive 6 months without income)
Network – connect to others, help them, demonstrate trust and competence, find mentors & act as a mentor (connect to 1 new person every week) (Webinar Recording: How Leaders Network)
Skills – read, study, practice (dedicate at least 10 days per year to professional development… or you are becoming “talentless” soon)
Spirit/Purpose – who are you? what do you stand for? where are you going? what are your values? (Finding Purpose: Step 1)
How are you building the foundations of your house, and of your life?
All taken from this post: 103 Bits of Advice I Wish I Had Known from Kevin Kelly, (thanks to my brother for sharing it with me a couple of weeks ago!).
Kevin Kelly was the founding editor of Wired. He reached 70 last year and shared 103 bits of life advice. I find these lists often are mostly cliche… but there is depth in this list.
This week’s video is me picking out the 3 bits of life advice that most resonate with me – and then sharing why these bits of advice are so important and relevant to myself.
3 of the 103 bits of life advice that I loved…
Living with Paradox… and Mentors (at 2:20 in the video)
Building A Life of Learning and Growth (at 5:33)
Trusting People (9:35)
Living with Paradox… and Mentors
“Three things you need: The ability to not give up something till it works, the ability to give up something that does not work, and the trust in other people to help you distinguish between the two.”
I love this one for this paradox: you need to be stubborn enough to stick to things beyond where someone else might abandon… and you need to be flexible enough to stop doing something when someone else might really struggle with the “sunk cost”… the hours and effort already invested in the activity.
How do you develop this capacity? You don’t. You are too close.
The only way you can develop the ability to navigate this paradox is with the input and perspectives of others. It took me a long time of stubborn arrogance before I finally had to accept that other people have much better perspectives on my life than I do.
Building A Life of Learning and Growth
“Your best job will be one that you were unqualified for because it stretches you. In fact only apply to jobs you are unqualified for.”
Once you have mastered something, we need you to move on… to take on something more complex. If you stay doing a job that you are now completely competent in… you begin to coast… and then feel like you deserve more… and become complacent… and then you find yourself out of a job.
I am currently leading Vistage in Spain… and the team around me can tell you that I am not yet the “perfect leader”… I am a work in progress… I am learning a lot as we go. I am completely committed to the mission of the organisation, and working hard to build up my skills and capacities to be a good leader… but I’m not there yet.
Trusting People
“If you loan someone $20 and you never see them again because they are avoiding paying you back, that makes it worth $20.”
I trust people as a general principle. It has worked out marvellously 99.9% of the time… but I have been let down, cheated and disappointed a number of times.
There is a saying “cheat me once, shame on you. Cheat me twice, shame on me.”
I have interviewed and hired hundreds of people over the last 20 years. I have accepted investment in my business, partners, employees… I have invested in others’ businesses and lent money to friends… and I’ve learnt that only behaviour counts… what people say they will do has no correlation to how they will act in future… what people have done in the past has huge correlation with how they will act in future.
If someone commits to pay you back $20 and then breaks that promise – it is a very inexpensive way of identifying someone not to trust in any way in future. While you might be wrong, there are 8 billion other people who are likely to be a better bet.
I’ve been reviewing my purpose statement. I rewrote it earlier this year. The year of Covid shook up my routines and threw me out of balance. It took some discipline with mentors, coaches and my journal to get re-connected to why I get up in the morning.
My purpose is “to inspire and challenge others to do the most important work of their lives”.
This video is a reflection on the context necessary for someone to do the most important work of their lives.
The 4 Ingredients necessary to do the most important work of your life:
Webinar Recording: How Leaders Network for IESE Business School Alumni Learning Program
Here is the full recording of the How Leaders Network webinar from February 9th for the IESE Alumni community. We had 520 people connected to the zoom call, and some great questions. We didn’t get round to answering all of the questions, so I have taken some time to give full answers here in this post.
“There are various levels of ‘networking’ from your close friend to the professional contact with whom you have met a couple of times at an event. How should each of them be managed?” Klaus
I’d say that each of us has 10 people who are family/close friends, 20 friends we see irregularly, 200 acquaintances that we have had an opportunity to share some experience together and 7.7 billion people with whom we have no real connection.
I remember a conference where Verne Harnish gave a keynote about high growth entrepreneurs. He recommended a strategy of making a 3 lists – 20 VIP, 30 important and 200 valuable. The 20 Very Important people in your network you would proactively seek to help them each week… one suggestion I heard back then was to do a google alert for the name of the person – and every time their name is mentioned in the press or around the web you will be notified.
Personally, I don’t deliberately “manage” my network. When I travel to a city I will often look up a couple of people and see if they could meet for a drink or coffee. When I am at one of IESE campus around the world I take some time to wander the corridors and say hello or have a coffee with professors and staff. I have 2 seats at FC Barcelona and I will reach out to people to invite them to come to the game… this can be a powerful second step in building a relationship around a shared passion (football).
My father has been on the boards of an orchestra, an opera festival, 3 public companies, 2 universities… The orchestra and the opera festival create wonderful moments that he can connect with people – he invites many people to these musical events, he asks people to sponsor musicians, he asks friends to come to operas…
I would suggest that rather than “managing” a network – you create opportunities around things that you have a passion for. Get involved in music or culture or galleries or politics… anything that gives you a reason to ask others for help for a cause that is bigger than you.
“How can we network in a digital world where you cannot meet or have lunch together?” José P.
Zoom is a powerful tool. I’ve used it extensively to have 20 minute conversations over the last 11 months. It is actually more effective than meeting for coffee for an initial chat – we both save on time to travel to a location. We can go straight to conversation. Covid has made it completely acceptable to have video calls.
The challenge is that on video it is so clear if you are unorganised, unprepared and unable to facilitate an interesting conversation that is mutually interesting.
How to do networking in a natural way in personal and professional life? Thanks for the great session Rogger B.
Have interest in the other person. What are their dreams, goals, aspirations? Where are they doing well? Where are they facing difficulty? Who has played a significant role in their development as a person and professional?
“How does one promote his work to a higher level than your manager’s without stepping on your boss’s toes? There are multiple managers who frown upon such actions from their subordinates.”
I laugh and tell all IESE students that the answer to every question is “It depends”. My friend Matt told me about the P.I.E. model for career management.
P = Performance – First, you need to be good at the actual work of your job. In the first 10 years of your career, this is where to focus on getting really good.
I = Impact – Next, you need to get onto project that are doing work that is making a tangible difference to what the leadership of the company value. In the second 10 years of your career, this becomes important. It is not enough from 30 to 40 years old to just do good work… if you care about your career it is vital that you get to work on projects that have a big impact (and avoid working on projects of low value).
E = Exposure – Third, you need to find a way to get positive exposure with the senior leaders of your business. This becomes important from 40 onwards… you are good at performing the work, you are good at identifying opportunities to have a big impact… now you need to build relationships of trust with senior decision makers.
now we hear your full Irish voice loud and clear!! 🙂 Ricardo R.
I understand that the first 10 minutes the microphone was not doing its job and the audio was going up and down… Glad you let us know!
You sai you started of pretty clumsy when holding a 20 minute conversation with someone but now are pretty good at it. What advice would you give to holding such a conversation? Wadzi
I have gotten much better in several areas:
Reaching out by email/phone/LinkedIn with a short request to have a conversation
Being clear on who I am and why I am interested in a conversation (I will often tell a short version of the Sandra Erliso story…)
Asking good questions and making the conversation about the other person, their projects, their dreams, their aspirations, their lessons
Gratitude – via email, gifts of books, connecting them to others who could be of help etc
“Once you have the first contact and conversation how to build a relationship and keep it going?” Carolina S.
Serve their goals and objectives. The more I can get to know their personal and professional objectives, the more ideas I can have on how to contribute.
You said you have a very efficient way how to make the 20 min. Conversation valuable. Can you share some insides how you do that? Stefan S.
I have done a lot of sales training over the last 16 years. It is an important skill as an entrepreneur. Most of sales training is about helping the other person get clear on their current situation and help them articulate in a rational way (and feel in an emotional way) the value of making some change.
How do you get the contact you want and build and strong and long lasting relationship with someone with more power than you that does need less from you than you need from her/him? Isaac B.
Begin small. Find something they have accomplished and let them know you find it inspiring (I am assuming that you do find it inspiring… honesty is important).
How often the Meetings should take place? After the first one it might be difficult to find more topics to discuss Ruben R.
If I find that it is hard to get a good conversation going in our first meeting, I leave them alone. If I find that I am doing all the work to ask questions and keep the conversation flowing, this is not the time… and maybe this is not the person that you can build a trusted relationship with.
Are there differences in the way you do networking when you are in your late fifties (my case) from when you were in your early twenties? Pablo E.
Absolutely. I didn’t think it was important in my twenties. I didn’t have many clear skills that solve other’s problems.
Today I have several valuable skills that can be of great help to other people. I am pretty good at helping another get really clear on who they are and what they aspire to achieve. I am very good to helping them articulate their ideas in a way that they can attract many resources to make things happen.
Because I presume that depend on your current level and the level of the people you’re trying to impact/reach to. Isaac B.
When I was younger I was less able to help people in any material way – especially in Spain.
The book “So Good they Can’t Ignore You” by Cal Newport is a powerful study. He interviewed 500 people over 50 years old who were “personally and professionally fulfilled”. His quest – what did they do to create a life that was personally and professionally fulfilling?
His answer – first you need to develop “rare and valuable skills”.
If you don’t have “rare and valuable skills” you are not in a great place to help others. I recommend the book to many people as they think about how to develop a successful career.
What can you do when you are 20-30 and want to meet senior people? First tell them what they have done that you find inspiring. Then ask good questions about them. End the conversation before it gets boring. Then send a written thank you (this is so rare that you will stand out a mile).
“How can you learn to ask effective questions to people you just meet?” Manuela V.
Care about them, about who they are, about what they aspire to become. Don’t ever assume that a person has their whole life sorted out. Everyone has some areas of life where they are not getting the fulfilment they hunger for.
If you were to have a 15-min Zoom with a potential mentor, what three questions would you ask them to move up in their “list” and build a powerful and lasting-mentoring relationship? Javier C.
This was answered in the webinar, but here’s the summary:
First, we need to ask about their past… their journey to today, the moments and the people that have impacted them. Questions: Who inspires you? What are the 3 lessons you have learnt in your career?
Second, we need to ask about their future. What are their aspirations, dreams, aims, plans?
Third, we need to get a sense of where they are today. In Vistage we start every meeting with everyone sharing 2 numbers – 1-10 personal, 1-10 professional. 10 is best month of your life.
If you have been able to build a conversation around these three areas – past experience, future dreams and current situation… then there is connection and a relationship can begin.
If you talk about yourself for 15 minutes, there is nothing.
I volunteer to open a chiringuito on the beach with Conor if he´s still interested! 🙂 Ricardo R.
I tried that. I had a chain of ice cream stores (Giangrossi) and we won the concession for a chiringuito. We learnt that it is not such a wonderful environment to run a business. I’d rather have a friend with a chiringuito these days.
I would be honored to hear the advise on whether it is better to focus on building a wider network or focusing on strengthtening a smaller inner circle? Both? Irina P.
It depends. If you don’t know exactly where you are going and are still exploring, then a wider network will give you more ideas. If you have clarity on what is important to you, then focus on people that play a key role in that domain.
What is your main advise to young entrepreneurs that are seaking to get good mentorship and good network but do not have much to add to successful businessmen. Marco B.M.
Mentors: don’t ask them for permission. Just watch them and learn from them. You don’t need to ask Elon Musk for permission to learn from his approach to life and business. You don’t need to ask Rockerfeller permission to read Titan, his biography by Chernow.
There are several types of mentor. There are several roles mentors can play in your life. Learn more here: What is Mentorship?
how long do you suggest a first talk with a potential mentor should take? Mercedes Fevre
Enough to connect. You can do that in 15-20 minutes.
How do you build on after the “First Great Meeting”? Lets say I’ve had a great 20 minute conversation… how do I build the relationship further? Whats the next conversation so the relationship can grow deeper? Wadzi
There is a book “Never Eat Alone”. I don’t like the book as a whole, but it does have a lot of suggestions for how to manage your network in a deliberate
Thanks Conor and IESE. another great session. Congrats!! Ricardo R.
😉
How do you manage your network? Do you have your own CRM system for meeting someone once a week? Will A.
Linkedin is pretty good for this. I don’t have a specific CRM system for personal networking. I have a page in my journal where I add names of people that I want to meet, and also for those I want to thank.
In my business we use Hubspot, but this would be an expensive tool for a personal list.
I send out Christmas cards each year – and about 50 go to people who I want to thank for positively contributing to my life during the year. I have a google docs spreadsheet with address details for all of these people.
“Conor thank you for existing :-)” Rubén M.
Very kind!
Thank you! Sun-Sun de S.
😉
What about professional over 55 ? Which will be your advise for them to improve their networking skills and relationships? Maria S.
It was an incredible eye opening conversation…. Thanks!!!! Michel W.
The best leadership book is not one that you can buy. It is your own life, if well documented.
Do you take time to document your life? Do you take time to look at your past year and get clear on where you are, and where you are going?
Last year Covid-19 brought a lockdown to over half of the world’s population. Covid changed our plans, it changed our businesses and it shook up our world. If we are to take something valuable from this year, it is important to take time to reflect on how the experience of Covid impacted you.
2021 is going to start without much change… the vaccines are coming but we will still have 6 months with restrictions on our movement, on our businesses, on our travel plans. I am not going to wish you a “wonderful 2021”. I am going to wish you the energy and clarity to handle the challenges that 2021 throws at you as the best version of yourself. That is my 1st January wish for you.
How to Reflect on the Last Year
In this post I will share a set of questions to structure a reflection on the past year, that might help clarify how to make changes in how you approach the coming year.
Here is a 3 page pdf worksheet that will guide you through a reflection process on the past year. I would recommend you print out the pages and carry them with you for a while.
The best results come when you go through the questions a couple of times over a few days. I often tell EO or YPO forums and Vistage groups that I want to see dog ears on the pages, and different colours of ink… even a coffee stain… showing that you have taken the pages out several times in preparing your end-of-year reflection. The 19 questions will help you think deeply about what contributes to your fulfilment, what detracts and what lessons you can actively take into the coming year.
Writing in a journal
I am asked in classes “what is the most important habit to learn to speak well?” My answer is writing each day in a journal. Capture your life. Capture your dreams, your frustrations, your questions, the people that helped, the people that made things more difficult… capture it all. My biology teacher, Mr Matz, always said “the shortest pencil is longer than the longest memory”.
Warren Rustand taught me to start the day with “10-10-10”. Ken Blanchard taught me to “start the day slowly”. Eric Matz (my biology teacher, when I was 14) taught me to write stuff down in a journal every day. Each tool involves taking time at the beginning of the day to reflect on what is important and get clear on who you want to be.
In our executive development programs at IESE Business School we make specific time in the program each day to reflect. Learning happens when you go through an experience, but is multiplied if you take time to reflect on the experience (and share your reflections with colleagues who share your path).
I’ve written several posts on how to approach writing in a journal:
If you know where you are coming from… the next thing to get clear: where are you going. How to clarify a vision for yourself, both personally and professionally:
This website uses cookies to improve your experience. We'll assume you're ok with this, but you can opt-out if you wish. Cookie settingsACCEPT
Privacy & Cookies Policy
Privacy Overview
This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these cookies, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may have an effect on your browsing experience.
Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of the website. These cookies do not store any personal information.
Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website.
