I share a tool that I have used to become mindful of my daily activities.
This video is from the IESE EMBA Intensive week and I share an exercise that I have been doing for the last few months – that has shown me that “feeling in a rush” is one of the big detractors of my quality of life.
This was the video script that I was developing for this week, but a lack of sleep and energy left me feeling zero credible to make this video.
What is the good life?
The good life is choosing to go beyond mere survival. Survival comes in the genes. We are automated to eat, breath and procreate. This is not living the good life.
The good life is a daily intentional choice to flourish. We can develop to the full the best of our strengths and bring the worst of our weaknesses under disciplined control.
The ABCs of living the Good Life:
- Action towards your strongest values (Productivity) make progress towards important things; Eisenhower’s matrix
- Belief. Give your life away… chosen sacrifice-Sense of purpose (contribution, give your life away… can’t “save” your hours, must invest). The test of value: you get paid. Paid doesn’t guarantee value, but free is idealistic… and idealists will kill us all.
- Curiosity – Life long learning (always curious, painful feedback) be better today than yesterday, be better tomorrow than today
- Discipline over your poorer habits
- Energy. Health (Imagine you had 1 car all your life… how would you take care of it? that is your body…)
- Friends (top 20… when was last you spoke?) inner circle… better a shack with someone who loves you than a mansion with those that use you
What are your thoughts? Should I make this as a video? What questions do you have about the 6 areas?
PS The video that I ended up making this week was all about an excuse that I was using that was taking me away from any sort of good life. I was being reactive and enjoying the feeling of victim of poor sleep and blaming others. Not a pretty place.
One of my posts over at LinkedIn “11 Differences between Busy People and Productive People” was turned into a cool infographic by an author at Inc Magazines blog. Given that it has horses and unicorns on it, I wanted to share it here.
Thanks Inc 😉
Check out the article over at Inc: The Differences between Busy and Productive People
Be careful what you wish for… In the Zoo, the animals are safe in their cages, they are fed 3 meals a day, the fence keeps out predators and competition (isn’t that what Trump promised?).
We have to be careful what we wish for.
Freedom comes with a price, and that price is called responsibility. We need to practice the responsibility that allows us to deal with true freedom.
From Peter Drucker:
“The Nature of Freedom
Freedom is never a release and always a responsibility.
Freedom is not fun. It is not the same as individual happiness, nor is it security or peace or progress. It is a responsible choice. Freedom is not so much a a right as a duty. Real freedom is not freedom from something; that would be licence. It is freedom to choose between doing or not doing something, to act one way or another, to hold one belief or the opposite, It is not “fun” but the heaviest burden laid on man: to decide his own individual conduct as well as the conduct of society and to be responsible for both decisions.”
If you liked this, you will like reading Freedom is Not Fun.
Listening is a state of seeking to be changed by the other person.
Listening is less about the ears, than about a state of openness to change.
Hearing is different from all other senses in that it has a buffer, a short term memory of the last 8 seconds that we have heard. This allows us to pay little attention until we hear a word, our name or a silence and this triggers us to scan the last few seconds of audio intently. Most of the time we learn to listen with little attention.
This is a dangerous mode of listening to those whose relationships are important to us. We must learn another way of listening to people who we value and are important to us. We must “listen with our eyes”.
When someone approaches me with the challenge: “I have a really difficult time communicating with my second son”. My question: “how have you let him change you?” This is what makes a relationship – a sense that both have the capacity to affect change in the other. Where I don’t let you affect my views, you will not let me affect your views. This does not mean that we let go of rationality. This means we are open to the different priorities that another person uses to view the world.
If you liked this post, you might also like How do I become a better listener? and How to build trust, improve relationships and enhance the quality of our lives?
I spoke with one of my mentors in Madrid this week. We spoke about success in business.
What is business success?
- What price is worth paying?
- What are the ingredients of achieving success?
- Is Business Success due to Great Decisions, or is it due to Excellent Implementation?
I share his answer in this video.
PS 99.9% of business (and life) success is due to Commitment, rather than Brilliant Ideas or Decisions
This is a post shared by Glenn Street on facebook. He attended Date with Destiny with Tony Robbins last week.
Some “Tonyisms” compiled by Zeke Abraham at Date With Destiny last week.
“I challenge you to make your life a masterpiece. I challenge you to join the ranks of those people who live what they teach, who walk their talk.”
– Tony Robbins
- Complexity is the enemy of execution.
- You can only build on success, you can’t build on failure.
- Our culture reinforces blame of others.
- Words have a biochemical effect on the body
- Stress is a code word for FEAR.
- Stress doesn’t come from the facts, stress comes from the meaning we give the facts. When you come up with a new meaning, you get a new life.
- Three decisions that we all make, control each moment of our lives:
- What to focus on
- What things mean
- What to do in spite of the challenges that may appear.
- We are suffering so much because we are overlooking the gifts around us.
- Trade expectation for appreciation and our whole life changes in an instant. ~Because~
- You can’t feel grateful and fearful at the same time. Or
- You can’t feel grateful and angry at the same time.
- When you are grateful fear disappears and abundance appears
- Celebration releases stress, it lifts your mood, motivates you, and lastly, it gives you energy. Not only physically, but it gives you energy for life
- When you adopt an attitude of gratitude celebrating for no good reason, is a good enough reason.
- The Past does not equal the Future. Biography does not equal Destiny.
- Our culture wants you to be one thing — to keep you simple.
- 6 human needs , each can be met constructively or destructively:
- 1. Certainty
- 2. Uncertainty / Variety
- 3. Significance
- 4. Love / Connection
- 5. Growth
- 6. Contribution
- People will give up their goals, dreams and values to meet their needs
- Anytime your mind perceives that doing something, feeling something, or believing something meets three of your needs; it becomes an addiction.
- A Strategy is a system of producing a consistent result.
- Faith is freedom.
- A belief is a feeling of certainty about what something means.
- There is a way beyond the way you’ve been programmed and that’s to program YOURSELF.
- People who succeed long term live on pull not push.
- If you don’t like the answers, ask better questions.
- Life is happening FOR me not TO me.
- Proximity is power.
- Who you spend time with is who you become.
- People’s lives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group.
- Only 3 things hold you back in business:
- 1. Failure to anticipate
- 2. Lack of follow through
- 3. Our own psychology and mindset
- Leaders are READERS: Minimum 30 minutes a day. (A book! NOT a fluff piece, social media or magazine or infographic.)
- Necessity is the mother of invention
- It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.
- In life, lots of people know what to do, but few people actually do what they know.
- Knowing is not enough! You must take action.
- Knowledge is not power…it’s potential power. Execution will trump knowledge any day.
- Information is potential power—execution trumps information every time.
- Emotion is created by motion
- CHANGE YOUR STATE! (PHYSIOLOGY)
- Where focus goes, energy flows (THOUGHT = ENERGY)
- I am a force for good!
- Step up!
- DEFY THE ODDS!
- Say YES!
- Make your move!
- If you want to change your life, raise your standards, change your SHOULD’s into MUST’s
- If you want to take the island, you gotta burn the freakin boats
- We all get what we tolerate.
- The secret to LIVING is GIVING
- Losers react, winners anticipate
- If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten
- The path of least resistance will never make you proud.
- Progress = happiness
- If we don’t grow we die
- People are rewarded in public for what they do in private
- Most people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in a decade
- Life’s reward system is not fair. We don’t get rewards that are equal to efforts.
- Good Effort = ZERO REWARDS
- Great Effort = Good Rewards
- Excellent Effort =Great Rewards
- + ADD ONLY 2mm more effort
- Outstanding Effort = EXCELLENT Rewards
- If you treat people at the end of the relationship like you did at the beginning, there won’t be an end.
- What stops us all from moving forward is FEAR: The two primary fears that we all share are:
- 1. the fear that we’re not enough, and therefore
- 2. the fear that we won’t be loved
- The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.
- Whenever you are happy with something in your life, it is because right now, the conditions of your life match your blueprint, or your belief about how life should be in that particular area. When you suffer, that is a signal for you to look at your blueprint. You have two options:
- 1. Either change your life, that is, do something to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
- 2. Or if you can’t change your life, change your blueprint.
- The quality of your life is equal to the quality of your relationships.
- Bottom line, If you’re not happy in your relationship, you aren’t happy (period)
- Prime yourself daily – if you don’t have 10 minutes, you don’t have a life:
- Healing | Solve | Strengthen | Celebrate | Serve
- Discipline weighs ounces regret weighs tons
If you liked this list of Tonyism’s, you will probably like my own list of 158 Conorisms – The Complete Guide to Personal Habits or my earliest “viral” post 17 Daily Habits for a Fulfilling Life.
Originally shared by my friend Glenn:
“The only thing that matters is what you choose to be now”
Po from Kung Fu Panda
The number 2 film on my “all time most watched” list is Kung Fu Panda 2. It was my daughter’s favourite during many of our travels together over the last decade. It is a film that had something for a young girl and something for her father.
We begin with Po, the Kung Fu Panda, frustrated with his life and feeling lost. Over the course of 90 minutes, Po learns to accept who he is and find inner peace.
Any guesses on the film I have watched most in my entire life? Check out this comment on the blog post for the answer!
There is formula for changing people. Doctor Malik Mohammed shared this wisdom with the EO Global Leadership Academy last week in Washington, USA. If you are to change someone’s behaviour patterns, two things are necessary.
Learn more about Dr Malik Mohammed and watch Dr Malik Mohammed speaking.