I spoke with one of my mentors in Madrid this week.  We spoke about success in business.

What is business success?

  • What price is worth paying?
  • What are the ingredients of achieving success?
  • Is Business Success due to Great Decisions, or is it due to Excellent Implementation?

I share his answer in this video.

PS 99.9% of business (and life) success is due to Commitment, rather than Brilliant Ideas or Decisions

This is a post shared by Glenn Street on facebook. He attended Date with Destiny with Tony Robbins last week.

Some “Tonyisms” compiled by Zeke Abraham at Date With Destiny last week.

“I challenge you to make your life a masterpiece. I challenge you to join the ranks of those people who live what they teach, who walk their talk.”
– Tony Robbins

TONYism’s

  • Complexity is the enemy of execution.
  • You can only build on success, you can’t build on failure.
  • Our culture reinforces blame of others.
  • Words have a biochemical effect on the body
  • Stress is a code word for FEAR.
  • Stress doesn’t come from the facts, stress comes from the meaning we give the facts. When you come up with a new meaning, you get a new life.
  • Three decisions that we all make, control each moment of our lives:
    1. What to focus on
    2. What things mean
    3. What to do in spite of the challenges that may appear.
  • We are suffering so much because we are overlooking the gifts around us.
  • Trade expectation for appreciation and our whole life changes in an instant. ~Because~
    • You can’t feel grateful and fearful at the same time. Or
    • You can’t feel grateful and angry at the same time.
  • When you are grateful fear disappears and abundance appears
  • Celebration releases stress, it lifts your mood, motivates you, and lastly, it gives you energy. Not only physically, but it gives you energy for life
  • When you adopt an attitude of gratitude celebrating for no good reason, is a good enough reason.
  • The Past does not equal the Future. Biography does not equal Destiny.
  • Our culture wants you to be one thing — to keep you simple.
  • 6 human needs , each can be met constructively or destructively:
    • 1. Certainty
    • 2. Uncertainty / Variety
    • 3. Significance
    • 4. Love / Connection
    • 5. Growth
    • 6. Contribution
  • People will give up their goals, dreams and values to meet their needs
  • Anytime your mind perceives that doing something, feeling something, or believing something meets three of your needs; it becomes an addiction.
  • A Strategy is a system of producing a consistent result.
  • Faith is freedom.
  • A belief is a feeling of certainty about what something means.
  • There is a way beyond the way you’ve been programmed and that’s to program YOURSELF.
  • People who succeed long term live on pull not push.
  • If you don’t like the answers, ask better questions.
  • Life is happening FOR me not TO me.
  • Proximity is power.
  • Who you spend time with is who you become.
  • People’s lives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group.
  • Only 3 things hold you back in business:
    • 1. Failure to anticipate
    • 2. Lack of follow through
    • 3. Our own psychology and mindset
  • Leaders are READERS: Minimum 30 minutes a day. (A book! NOT a fluff piece, social media or magazine or infographic.)
  • Necessity is the mother of invention
  • It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.
  • In life, lots of people know what to do, but few people actually do what they know.
  • Knowing is not enough! You must take action.
  • Knowledge is not power…it’s potential power. Execution will trump knowledge any day.
  • Information is potential power—execution trumps information every time.
  • Emotion is created by motion
  • CHANGE YOUR STATE! (PHYSIOLOGY)
  • Where focus goes, energy flows (THOUGHT = ENERGY)
  • I am a force for good!
  • Step up!
  • DEFY THE ODDS!
  • Say YES!
  • Make your move!
  • If you want to change your life, raise your standards, change your SHOULD’s into MUST’s
  • If you want to take the island, you gotta burn the freakin boats
  • We all get what we tolerate.
  • The secret to LIVING is GIVING
  • Losers react, winners anticipate
  • If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten
  • The path of least resistance will never make you proud.
  • Progress = happiness
  • If we don’t grow we die
  • People are rewarded in public for what they do in private
  • Most people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in a decade
  • Life’s reward system is not fair. We don’t get rewards that are equal to efforts.
    • Good Effort = ZERO REWARDS
    • Great Effort = Good Rewards
    • Excellent Effort =Great Rewards
    • + ADD ONLY 2mm more effort
    • Outstanding Effort = EXCELLENT Rewards
  • If you treat people at the end of the relationship like you did at the beginning, there won’t be an end.
  • What stops us all from moving forward is FEAR: The two primary fears that we all share are:
    • 1. the fear that we’re not enough, and therefore
    • 2. the fear that we won’t be loved
  • The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.
  • Whenever you are happy with something in your life, it is because right now, the conditions of your life match your blueprint, or your belief about how life should be in that particular area. When you suffer, that is a signal for you to look at your blueprint. You have two options:
    • 1. Either change your life, that is, do something to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
    • 2. Or if you can’t change your life, change your blueprint.
  • The quality of your life is equal to the quality of your relationships.
  • Bottom line, If you’re not happy in your relationship, you aren’t happy (period)
  • Prime yourself daily – if you don’t have 10 minutes, you don’t have a life:
  • Healing | Solve | Strengthen | Celebrate | Serve
  • Discipline weighs ounces regret weighs tons

If you liked this list of Tonyism’s, you will probably like my own list of 158 Conorisms – The Complete Guide to Personal Habits or my earliest “viral” post 17 Daily Habits for a Fulfilling Life.

Originally shared by my friend Glenn:

“The only thing that matters is what you choose to be now”
Po from Kung Fu Panda

The number 2 film on my “all time most watched” list is Kung Fu Panda 2.  It was my daughter’s favourite during many of our travels together over the last decade.  It is a film that had something for a young girl and something for her father.

We begin with Po, the Kung Fu Panda, frustrated with his life and feeling lost.  Over the course of 90 minutes, Po learns to accept who he is and find inner peace.

Any guesses on the film I have watched most in my entire life?  Check out this comment on the blog post for the answer!

“If someone followed your life and took 24 hours of film of everything you do for a day and they edited that into a one-hour documentary… the editor could decide to make you look like the worst villain ever or the greatest hero ever… it depends on which parts of your day he puts into the documentary” my friend Raul Aguirre over dinner in Buenos Aires

This video is about a Paradox that we must come to terms with in order to live a full human life. I’ve made it in Montevideo, Uruguay on a trip here to teach Leadership Communications at the IEEM Business School (part of the University of Montevideo).

We need to find a balance in our lives between the forces of external and internal success, between intentional, goal-directed living and a sense of peace within. The paradox – is that these are two forces that clash. How do you find the right balance?

I’d welcome your help on Balance between Ambition and Peace

I need your help- how do you find this balance? Do you have this balance? Do you ever lose control to one side or the other… and how do you recognise this and regain the balance in your life? Thanks… trying to regain this balance in my own life…

If you liked this, you might also like to see my recent video on Finding Purpose and Defining a Vision for your Life (an Exercise).

This video is about the 4 seasons of nature, and the 4 seasons of our life.

Farmers understand the seasons – they don’t plant in autumn and try to reap a harvest in winter… they know that spring is for planting, summer is for nurturing and autumn is for reaping.

In our own lives we have these seasons. If you can recognise the seasons of your life, you can keep a better perspective and clarity about what you are seeking to achieve.

Stay strong… and remember: all winters come to an end and spring, the window of opportunity will come again.

I mentioned Brandon Dempsey’s blog post: How to cautiously and successfully reap the rewards of your hard work

I'd love you to leave a comment and tell me the answer to this question: Who is the most enthusiastic person that you know? 

Thanks, Conor

Last night, I asked a retired inspector of schools: “What makes a great school?”

His answer… “Music.”

He said that infallibly he would find a thriving musical scene in every great school that he had visited.

When you are surrounded by enthusiastic people, you are willing to take risks and learn; brave tries are celebrated. When you are surrounded by cynics and apathetic people you don’t take risks and any effort at bravery is laughed at and mocked.

On Friday I attended the YouTube Creators day in Barcelona. It struck me just how powerful a room full of enthusiastic people can be. There was no cynicism and no apathy. All efforts at Learning, trying and courage to take risks were celebrated.

Making movies #YouTube

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PS My own answer is: Florian Mueck (http://www.florianmueck.com/florian/)

Write stuff down.

I say it over and over again. I repeat myself. My blog is an extension of my habit of writing down ideas.

A short pencil is longer than the longest memory.

Writing is among the greatest inventions in human history, perhaps the greatest invention, since it made history possible. Yet it is a skill most of us take for granted.” Andrew Robinson, The Story of Writing.

Check out how to begin with a journal, or hear what Jim Collins has to say on the writing process.

 

This weeks video is inspired by a book: The Road Less Travelled, by M. Scott Peck.

The book begins with the statement “Life is difficult”. It is my failure to understand this, believing that my life should be easy and problem-free that is the root of suffering.

Life is not meant to be easy, and is a series of problems which can either be handled or ignored.

Discipline is required to solve life’s problems rather than ignore them.  Discipline is made up of 4 aspects of how we chose to live our lives.

The 4 Aspects of Discipline:

  • Delaying gratification: Sacrificing present comfort for future gains.
  • Acceptance of responsibility: Accepting responsibility for one’s own decisions.
  • Dedication to truth: Honesty, both in word and deed.
  • Balancing: Handling conflicting requirements. Scott Peck writes of an important skill to prioritize between different requirements – bracketing.

Carl Jung, said “neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering.” Neurotics make themselves miserable; those with character disorders make everyone else miserable. Everyone is neurotic or character-disordered at some time in their life, and the balance is to have a structure and relationships in your life than can help you see your lack of balance before you hurt yourself (or others).

Dedication to the truth represents the capacity of an individual to modify and update their worldview when exposed to new information discordant with the old view. Dedication to truth implies a life of genuine self-examination, a willingness to be personally challenged by others, and honesty to oneself and others.

Really coming to terms with oneself is very hard and painful work. Most people prefer to complain about their pain and continue their self-destructive patterns than to take up the challenging task of constructing a self and a life they could really live with.

 

This video is about Cialdini’s 6 Moments of Power from his book “Influence”.

Here is Dr. Robert Cialdini’s book “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion”

About the Book

Influence, the classic book on persuasion, explains the psychology of why people say “yes”—and how to apply these understandings. Dr. Robert Cialdini is the seminal expert in the rapidly expanding field of influence and persuasion. His thirty-five years of rigorous, evidence-based research along with a three-year program of study on what moves people to change behavior has resulted in this highly acclaimed book.

You’ll learn the six universal principles, how to use them to become a skilled persuader—and how to defend yourself against them. Perfect for people in all walks of life, the principles of Influence will move you toward profound personal change and act as a driving force for your success.