Category Self-Belief

Status Anxiety [great podcast…]

Status Anxiety is a much bigger issue today than at any time in history. The self-help gurus have sold us on the idea that each of us individually has the power to succeed or fail within us.  If I read “Awaken the Power within” I will find my power and inevitable achieve riches.  If I […]

3 Ways Negative Self-Talk Damages Us

Psychologist Martin Seligman explained that there are three ways in which our internal beliefs or narratives  become damaging: we make them personal, pervasive, and permanent. Personal: I failed, so I must be a failure.  Pervasive: I failed in this instance, so I’ll probably fail in every instance. Permanent: I failed once, so I’ll probably fail […]

Teaching with Creative Indifference (or Impartiality)

Creative Indifference A good gardener creates the conditions for growth of a garden, but cannot force the flowers to grow in an exact way.  The good gardener creates the conditions and accepts what arises. The bad gardener fights what arises.  The bad gardener hacks and chops and fights against the natural growth of nature. The […]

“What is the hardest thing that you ever had to work for?”

This is a request for your experience.  I want your help. Yesterday, I came across an interview with Ryan Avery, 2012 World Champion of Public Speaking on the blog of Paul Sohn: How to Speak Like a World Champion of Public Speaking. The question that really struck me and has left me deep in thought […]

How to Be a Good Mentor

The Art of Mentorship I just posted a short presentation to slideshare: The Art of Mentorship 3 Types of Mentor Sponsor (or Advocate) – puts their reputation on the line and takes responsibility for your personal success. Protege = “one who is protected”. Protege must do everything in his power to make the sponsor look […]

The 14 Habits of Highly Miserable People

This post was originally published on Alternet and it is written by coaching guru Cloe Madanes. The 14 Habits of Highly Miserable People Most of us claim we want to be happy—to have meaningful lives, enjoy ourselves, experience fulfillment, and share love and friendship with other people and maybe other species, like dogs, cats, birds, and […]

What is a story?

At the very simplest, a story is: A character Who wants something Overcomes obstacles to get it An epic story is A character Who wants something massive And is willing to risk everything to get it The real depth of any story is not whether the character achieves the goal but who they become as […]

All life demands struggle.

I often use an exercise called The Lifeline in my teaching.  I found a good summary of the exercise here.  In the exercise people reflect on the important positive and negative experiences of their life. Something that has struck me after all these years of watching groups work on the exercise – it is the […]

10 Personal Habits of Resilient People

Before you start reading, I’d like you to take a moment and think about the people you know well.  Who, would you say, is the most psychologically resilient of your friends or family?  Who would cope the best with major setbacks?  Who would be able to keep their heads while all about them are losing […]

Loneliness and Aloneness

Loneliness and Aloneness are different. Loneliness is an emptiness and the desire to fill this space with another person in the hope that the emptiness will be filled and removed. Loneliness is to be unhappy alone; and leads to misery together. Loneliness leads to a possessive relationship that is not love. It may begin with […]

Centrifugal Performer

By Milica Ilic

Manner of Speaking

"All the great speakers were bad speakers at first." — Ralph W. Emerson

breath2x2

breathing made easy

Anna S. E. Lundberg

Coach, trainer, mentor