“The only thing that matters is what you choose to be now”
Po from Kung Fu Panda
The number 2 film on my “all time most watched” list is Kung Fu Panda 2. It was my daughter’s favourite during many of our travels together over the last decade. It is a film that had something for a young girl and something for her father.
We begin with Po, the Kung Fu Panda, frustrated with his life and feeling lost. Over the course of 90 minutes, Po learns to accept who he is and find inner peace.
Any guesses on the film I have watched most in my entire life? Check out this comment on the blog post for the answer!
Self-discipline is the foundational habit that makes all other good habits possible.
What is self discipline?
It is the ability to do a chosen action even when you don’t feel like it.
Anyone can do the action when they feel like it. It is the ability to do it when you don’t feel like it that really marks the difference between having a large positive impact in the world or just dribbling away all your days.
All habits are developed by repetition. If you repeat something bad for you, it will become a habit. If you repeat something good for you, it will become a habit.
Resolve to stick through the important tasks that you chose to start. As you repeatedly finish what you start, it will become more and more natural to you. Blogging was hard for me at the beginning, but now I know I will publish within 20 minutes of starting a post (I am coming up to 500 posts out there on this blog and other online resources such as forbes, lifehack, IESE, Active Garage, slideshare, venturebeat, venture village)
Three Step Guide for Better Productive Days
Here is a morning guide for being intentionally productive:
Write down the top 5 most important tasks
Pick the #1 most important task.
Work on it until it is done. (THE HARD BIT!)
If you aren’t thinking of an important bigger picture, you will be distracted by easy interruptions. It is hard to stay the course when you don’t feel like it. Your life gets better when you get better. Your leadership gets better when your habits get better. Facebook, email, twitter are so instantly addictive that I will be distracted by them every day that I am not working on something that is of importance to me.
All important success comes from finishing projects. If you get better at finishing, you get better at life. Do the projects today that the “you” of tomorrow will be thankful for.
Start and complete a task every morning before anything else. Dandapani taught me to start by making my bed first thing in the morning. I start by reminding myself that I finish what I start (and making the bed is not so difficult).
Time after time I see promising young athletes reach the professional teams, and they don’t make it. Time and time again I see someone do well in the good times, but then allow one small setback to avalanche into a total personal, business and financial collapse.
Other times someone struggles through the youth ranks, shows no extreme talent, but when they reach the professional team they excel. Or, a friend uses a small personal crisis to multiply their productivity across all aspects of their life.
What differentiates those that cope with those that do not?
Resilience: Mental Toughness
How do you cope with setbacks? How do you deal with the blows that life deals you?
The 5 levels of Resilience
The five levels of individual Resiliency are:
Able to maintain emotional stability
Able to focus outward: Good problem solving skills
Able to focus inward: Strong inner “selfs”, self-belief
Deliberately practiced procedural habits
Be Water my Friend
Resilience Means Adapting to Adversity
Resilience is the ability to roll with the punches. When stress, adversity or trauma strikes, you still experience anger, grief and pain, but you’re able to keep functioning — both physically and mentally. Resilience isn’t about ignoring it, stoic acceptance or lonely heroics. In fact, being able to reach out to others for support is a key component of being resilient.
Resilience and Mental Health
Resilience offers protection from many mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety. Resilience can also help offset factors that increase the risk of mental health conditions, such as lack of social support, being bullied or previous trauma.
9 Tips to improve your Resilience
If you’d like to become more resilient, consider these tips:
Maintain Hope – You can’t change what’s happened in the past, but you can always look toward the future. Accepting and even anticipating change makes it easier to adapt and view new challenges with less anxiety.
Take care of your Health – Include physical activity in your day. Find a night time pattern that allows for good sleep. Eat consciously.
Playfulness and Pause. Rest your mind and let it wander through imagined worlds. Mindful imagination can reduce stress (and it improves your immune system). Play games and act like a kid. YouTube videos about Goats Shouting Like Humans are stupid, but they do make me laugh insanely.
Embrace Creativity Regularly. Participation in music and dance, can have a significant effect in building resilience.
Use Procedural Skills – take advantage of the “procedural learning” part of your brain. Keep practicing the skills you’ve mastered by repetition – like playing piano, ping-pong or drawing pictures. Rote-learned information is what school focussed on – but today it’s all Google-able. Forget it. Focus on your procedural skills. These should be exercised and enhanced every day.