Category Confidence

Zero Executive Presence: “When I speak, people don’t listen. Why is that?”

Student: “When I speak, people don’t listen.  Why is that?” Teacher: “It depends…” It always depends… There are many possible reasons that people don’t engage with you, don’t care about what you are going to say, don’t pay attention. Rarely does anyone come to me and say “I need help.  I am boring.” However, this condition is […]

Teaching with Creative Indifference (or Impartiality)

Creative Indifference A good gardener creates the conditions for growth of a garden, but cannot force the flowers to grow in an exact way.  The good gardener creates the conditions and accepts what arises. The bad gardener fights what arises.  The bad gardener hacks and chops and fights against the natural growth of nature. The […]

The 3 Worst Things that We Learned as Children

Was school good for me?  I do believe so. There are some very positive values that were inculcated in me through the way the teachers dealt with us, the stories we were told, the structure of the school:  compassion, gratitude, sharing, discipline, respect, charity, hope, love. The 3 Worst Things We Learned As Children However, there […]

The Quality of a Leader’s Intent

Two leaders in the same circumstances doing the same thing can bring about completely different outcomes. I’ve often wondered why. It is more than just luck. It is an inner quality of certain leaders. There is a quality to certain people’s intent, capacity to observe without judging, capacity to see a new way to put […]

How Confident People achieve a Confident Mindset (In a Way Most People Don’t Know)

How do some people remain poised and confident where others are reduced to nervous wrecks? I have been a student of the human condition for years.  It all started age 17 when I faced the tough life decision of what to do after school finished. I decided to study psychology at university.  There were three […]

All life demands struggle.

I often use an exercise called The Lifeline in my teaching.  I found a good summary of the exercise here.  In the exercise people reflect on the important positive and negative experiences of their life. Something that has struck me after all these years of watching groups work on the exercise – it is the […]

10 Personal Habits of Resilient People

Before you start reading, I’d like you to take a moment and think about the people you know well.  Who, would you say, is the most psychologically resilient of your friends or family?  Who would cope the best with major setbacks?  Who would be able to keep their heads while all about them are losing […]

Loneliness and Aloneness

Loneliness and Aloneness are different. Loneliness is an emptiness and the desire to fill this space with another person in the hope that the emptiness will be filled and removed. Loneliness is to be unhappy alone; and leads to misery together. Loneliness leads to a possessive relationship that is not love. It may begin with […]

The #1 Most Important Tool in Negotiation

There is a power tool in negotiation.  I would say this is the single most useful tactic that I use in my years of selling (I sell private jets among other high value products). It is not competitive, it is not aggressive, it is not avoiding anything. It does not require massive intellectual development, years […]

The Ability to Sell Yourself

How do you respond when a person says “Tell me about yourself?” It might be called confidence, it might be called belief – do you let others see the best version of you, or do they see a dull, low-intensity, passionless version of yourself? Why do we find it difficult to sell ourselves? I spent […]

Centrifugal Performer

By Milica Ilic

Manner of Speaking

"All the great speakers were bad speakers at first." — Ralph W. Emerson

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Anna S. E. Lundberg

Coach, trainer, mentor