It is 43 years since I was born, 25 since I finished school and 12 since I graduated with my MBA as seen in this picture below. I have written some notes on life every day since I was 14 years old. This long post is a summary of ideas that came from a review of all those journals.
158 Reflections to become The Best Version of Yourself
This is a collection of phrases that keep me focussed on what is important. I wrote this list out one Sunday afternoon 5 years ago sat at my home dining table.
There are seven categories:
Dealing with People
Take Disciplined Action
Accept Reality as it is
Make Progress towards Results
Living with Purpose and
I make no claim to originality and I leave you a list of thinkers who have inspired me and are far more responsible for any wisdom here than myself.
There are many people whose works have added flavour to this list. This material has been compiled from a Sunday review of 15 years of daily journals. Some of the phrases are my own, but many are direct and even exact copies of words that I have read in books, heard in speeches or seen in blog posts. These are the top 13 people who have influenced the ideas expressed in this post.
I came across a TEDx talk today by Drew Dudley about Leadership. It is called “Creating cultures of leadership”.
He explains his first ever class on leadership. After the class, a participant came up and said “I thought I understood leadership, but now I don’t. Could you explain exactly what you mean by leadership?”
He could not explain it simply. It was too complex. (He used the old teacher trick… he asked her “well, what do you think leadership is?”)
After years of thinking, he can now explain leadership simply. For him, it is answering these 6 questions every day.
If he answers these 6 questions every day, at the end of a year there will be 2,190 moments that he deliberately makes people better.
The 6 Questions to Ask Yourself Every Day to be a Leader
Impact – What have I recognised in someone else’s leadership today?
Continuous Improvement – What have I done to make it more likely I will learn something?
Mentorship – What have I done to make it more likely someone else will learn something?
Empowerment – What positive thing have I said about someone to their face today?
Recognition – What positive thing have I said about someone who isn’t in the room?
Self-respect – How have I been good to myself today?
David William wrote this post at Lifehack, but I find that I have gone back a couple of times now to find these questions. I was on a bike ride along Tibidabo mountain last night with my daughter (8) and I asked her a couple of these questions. I get some profound answers.
Jim Collins says that we should be constantly increasing our Questions to Answers ratio. A question means I am open and curious and learning. An answer is saying what I already know.
Here are the 15 questions that David shared:
15 Questions that Create Profound Discussions with my Daughter
What five words do you think best describe you?
What do you love doing that makes you feel happiest?
What do you know how to do that you can teach others?
What is the most wonderful/worst thing that ever happened to you?
What did you learn from the best/worst thing that’s happened to you?
Of all the things you are learning, what do you think will be the most useful when you are an adult?
If you could travel back in time three years and visit your younger self, what advice would you give yourself?
What are you most grateful for?
What do you think that person feels?
What do you think your life will be like in the future?
Which of your friends do you think I’d like the most? Why?
If you could grow up to be famous, what would you want to be famous for?
How would you change the world if you could?
How can you help someone today?
If you could make one rule that everyone in the world had to follow, what rule would you make? Why?